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In coaching, an accurate reflection of commitment to success, comes from looking at, how present, both, coach and client show up, for coaching sessions. The most we make of any given moment, tends to happen in the moments we are most present for, but even, in knowing this, our state of presence, somehow, still has to be continually observed.
“The most we make of any given moment, tends to happen in the moments we are most present for“
What’s great is that, in one way or another, we are reminded about or receive lessons on presence. For me, my most recent lesson, happened to come in the form of an interesting story, I call, The bug, the yoga mat and the lost moment.
A bug, walks along my yoga mat, in the midst of a session and I take a mental note of its location, so that I don’t harm it when I transition to the next position. Right after that, I drifted, into a trance of nothingness thought that felt like 2 seconds. After which, I turned, to get into the next pose, ensuring that I checked the spot, where I saw the bug, thinking that it hadn’t gone far.
“I drifted, into a trance of nothingness.”
I was mistaken. It traveled far; so far that it was a few steps from getting off the mat. That’s when I realized that my trance held my awareness for longer than I had realized. By my estimations, I was in it for between 20 to 30 seconds, for the bug to get that far.
The thing is, 20 to 30 seconds does not seem like a lot of time, until you close your eyes and count to 30; or doing the final 30 seconds of an intense workout; or realize that two lost moments like that equates to, roughly, one lost minute. This made me think of the countless ‘trances of nothingness’ moments, we experience in a day; countless minutes that we get no returns on.
“Countless minutes that we get no returns on.“
Back to that moment, on my yoga mat, entertainingly, one of the voices in my head asked, “do you see how far along the bug has gone?” It made sense because I thought the world had stopped. As if time stood still, I expected that the bug would be right where I left it. It was almost completely gone and I was in the same moment, we met at.
“Time is relative and in accordance to what we do with it.“
I can’t tell you what your take always from this should be, but for me, this was an unexpected lesson on presence, one that I am grateful to have had. I am left reminded of just how easy it is to disconnect from a moment of presence and awareness, to one of detachment and unconsciousness. Additionally, I took away that time is relative and in accordance to what we do with it. Cheers.