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Picture yourself along on a journey, with a backpack, filled with rocks. I know, it’s wild, but humor me. At first, you’re able to move through slowly and according to what the terrain requires of you, you may not successfully complete the journey.
“What do you have to lose?“
Your struggles are numerous, you avoid ascending inclines, as well as long journeys, because that heavy backpack, doesn’t allow you to. There’s nothing useful in it. Just those useless rocks.
What’s even wilder than our imagination is the fact that you’re still carrying that backpack. The circumstances are similar when it comes to some of the beliefs we hold but unlike the rocks that we can readily identify as the cause of what’s holding us back from our aspirations, the limitations of our beliefs aren’t as easily identified.
“What’s even wilder than our imagination is the fact that you’re still carrying that backpack“
Have you ever heard someone say that they are not good at math; people can’t be trusted; men aren’t supposed to wear pink; or that they can’t change something about themselves? Those are some examples of limiting beliefs.
Sometimes they go beyond what is said, into how we interact with ourselves and others, such as believing that the only way to do something is the way we know it to be.
Beliefs such as these and many others limit the way we see, explore and relate to life. Other times they are limiting because they limit our own potential and even stop us from testing out what we’re made of.
So what helps disempower limiting beliefs and helps us to introduce empowering beliefs that serve us positively? A good place to start can be identifying your own limiting beliefs, whether it shows up in the form of negative self-talk; telling yourself a story about others, their actions and intentions; or about what makes the world the way it is.
“Sometimes they go beyond what is said, into how we interact with ourselves and others.”
Additionally, pay attention to the assumptions that stem from those beliefs and question whether or not you know enough, have enough perspective or even did research to be able to accept them as the truth.
Furthermore, challenge the voice in your head to take on a more positive and encouraging attitude, even as an experiment, just to see what new results you can generate. What do you have to lose?
In all of this, the reality is that years of conditioning and repetition, may have led to an ingrained acceptance of the beliefs we hold about ourselves, others and the world. These are the beliefs that we self-identify with and accept as ‘our story’ but knowing this means that we are able to look inwardly, at them, holding onto the ones that support us on the journey toward becoming the best version of ourselves.
“Explore ways forward, toward the life that reflects the image of your best life and best self.“
Finally, if you feel like you need additional support, consider reaching out to a counselor, therapist or even a coach to explore ways forward, toward the life that reflects the image of your best life and best self.